So Eric and I were in Arizona this past weekend for 4th of July and I can't tell you how much it made my heart ache having to come back to Cali. I used to love California. I used to get so excited when someone wanted to plan a beach trip. But now? No way, I will take Mesa over California any day of the week. A timeshare in a beach house? That would be awesome. But anything else is a no for me.
But this isn't a California hating post, I just needed that bit of a rant.
So I've been really down in the dumps lately, and the reason being is because I really am extremely unhappy in California. Here it's hard to make friends with the same values as you because you don't meet many members of the church, or people with standards that really match yours. I've had a couple strokes of luck with finding a good friend in Kellie Carnohan, and a couple girls at work that I've been able to bond with (shout out to Millie Moro, you keep me sane) but that's about it. For anyone who knows me, I am an extremely social person. I love being around people, and so does Eric. I married someone exactly like me. Yes, I live with my best friend, and it's wonderful, but we both need social outlets that are not each other!
A little advice to couples getting married or discussing marriage...
DO NOT CUT YOURSELF OFF FROM YOUR FRIENDSHIPS.
You will drive yourself and your partner crazy if you are around only each other all day, every day.
*Disclaimer* Just because you may get annoyed with husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend does not mean that you don't love them more than life itself. It's a human feeling to have!
Yeah at the beginning, it's ok. Anyone who enters in a new relationship just wants to be with their significant other every moment they can. You're married, it's wonderful and you are soaking in the joys of being with your one and only all the time. For about three months all I wanted to do was be with Eric. Friends would ask me to hang out and I would lie and say I was doing something else already and end up just sitting all night with my hubby playing Borderlands or COD. As much as you love your partner there will come a day where he or she will do something that will bug the crap out of you that wouldn't normally bother you. Kind of the same feeling you get when you hang out with a friend for too long. Every body needs space, everyone needs their own activities and everyone needs time with their own friends. I love going to lunch with Emily, going tanning with Kira and doing a Dutch Brothers run with Megan because I need that time to de-stress. And Eric needs that same time to himself with his friends.
For me this lack of friendships has really put a damper on my spirit. To be honest there are times where I'm by myself and I'm extremely depressed. Don't get me wrong, Eric really is my best friend and it's not hard spending all my time with him, I love him, but I need some estrogen around me! So that's why it was so hard coming back to California. I spent basically all weekend with my best friends which was a blast and it really gave Eric and I the boost we needed, but it made this returning trip really hard.
Let's just say Eric and I are excited to move home and once again be around the people who uplift us and make life wonderful.
ONE MORE MONTH OF CALI LIFE
Extra:
Earlier this week I emailed one of my best friend's who is on a mission right now and I told her about how being in California, away from everything has been taking a toll on my spirit and she wrote me this...
There are three things you can do to lift a heavy heart:
But this isn't a California hating post, I just needed that bit of a rant.
So I've been really down in the dumps lately, and the reason being is because I really am extremely unhappy in California. Here it's hard to make friends with the same values as you because you don't meet many members of the church, or people with standards that really match yours. I've had a couple strokes of luck with finding a good friend in Kellie Carnohan, and a couple girls at work that I've been able to bond with (shout out to Millie Moro, you keep me sane) but that's about it. For anyone who knows me, I am an extremely social person. I love being around people, and so does Eric. I married someone exactly like me. Yes, I live with my best friend, and it's wonderful, but we both need social outlets that are not each other!
A little advice to couples getting married or discussing marriage...
DO NOT CUT YOURSELF OFF FROM YOUR FRIENDSHIPS.
You will drive yourself and your partner crazy if you are around only each other all day, every day.
*Disclaimer* Just because you may get annoyed with husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend does not mean that you don't love them more than life itself. It's a human feeling to have!
Yeah at the beginning, it's ok. Anyone who enters in a new relationship just wants to be with their significant other every moment they can. You're married, it's wonderful and you are soaking in the joys of being with your one and only all the time. For about three months all I wanted to do was be with Eric. Friends would ask me to hang out and I would lie and say I was doing something else already and end up just sitting all night with my hubby playing Borderlands or COD. As much as you love your partner there will come a day where he or she will do something that will bug the crap out of you that wouldn't normally bother you. Kind of the same feeling you get when you hang out with a friend for too long. Every body needs space, everyone needs their own activities and everyone needs time with their own friends. I love going to lunch with Emily, going tanning with Kira and doing a Dutch Brothers run with Megan because I need that time to de-stress. And Eric needs that same time to himself with his friends.
For me this lack of friendships has really put a damper on my spirit. To be honest there are times where I'm by myself and I'm extremely depressed. Don't get me wrong, Eric really is my best friend and it's not hard spending all my time with him, I love him, but I need some estrogen around me! So that's why it was so hard coming back to California. I spent basically all weekend with my best friends which was a blast and it really gave Eric and I the boost we needed, but it made this returning trip really hard.
Let's just say Eric and I are excited to move home and once again be around the people who uplift us and make life wonderful.
ONE MORE MONTH OF CALI LIFE
Extra:
Earlier this week I emailed one of my best friend's who is on a mission right now and I told her about how being in California, away from everything has been taking a toll on my spirit and she wrote me this...
There are three things you can do to lift a heavy heart:
Pray. I mean REALLY pray. Not in like in seminary but talk to your father in heaven. I always like to kneel in one of our closets (my closet is bigger than my room) and speak out loud expressing all. God wants to hear from YOU Ellen. Pray night and day on your knees and express your heart. God will do the rest.
Second read the scriptures: If we want to talk to God we pray, if we want him to talk to us we read. Read your patriarchal blessing, general conference talks, watch mormon messages and pay REALLY close attention to what sticks out and it will tell exactly what you need.
Then act. Act on whatever answer you get whether it be "post your favorite scripture on facebook" or "go to the temple" It will lift your heart. I had a time on my mission when I wanted to come home. (it happens) but these three little things will invite miracles in our lives. I love you Ellen and I know you are a wonderful daughter of God. I´ll see you soon. Also I´m in trujillo north mission now. :) I have the temple in my mission. Sometimes I wish I could drop everything and go to the temple but that´s not how a mission works. I´ll pray for you. Smile lots this week and then take selfies :)
Hermana Peel
Niki has this incredible way of saying the right thing, and making you feel like you're important and that what you're feeling matters. I really wouldn't have made it through high school without this girl. But she reminded me that I have two people who are always there to hear my soul's complaint, my Heavenly Father and my savior Jesus Christ. It's true what they say, "Missionaries bring blessings to their families". Well I may not be blood related to Niki but I do consider her as a sister, and her being on her mission has brought blessing into my life. I can't wait till she is home. You see how it's hard being away from my friends? I have been blessed with the most amazing people in my life!
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Here's some pictures from this past weekend. I love my home and I love my friends. August 8th cannot come soon enough!
